Their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no more. Hebrews 10:17 (NKJV)
Be easy on others and hard on yourself” is an old saying. To a degree, that commonsense proverbs rings true. But when it comes to forgiveness, it can be misapplied.
What if you are the one responsible for a divorce? What if you are the one who spread malicious gossip about another—gossip that proved false? What if you lost your temper and struck your mate?
An inability to forgive yourself can lead to a severe character disorder, plunging you ever deeper into discouragement, bitterness, and hopelessness.
If anyone had a reason to judge himself harshly, it was the apostle Paul. He was a killer, persecutor, and enemy of the Church. What if Paul had allowed his past to haunt him after his dramatic conversion to Christ? Could he possibly have shared Christ so boldly and persistently?
Paul’s refusal to forgive himself would have damaged his life and ministry. Being hard on yourself when it comes to forgiveness is a setup for a lifetime of self-inflicted pain.