Serving the Lord with all humility, with many tears and trials which happened to me by the plotting of the Jews. Acts 20:19
King David knew how to express his grief and fear, but not all men—not even believers—understand how to feel and express tremendous sorrow, and they’re secretly afraid. In his book, Real Men Have Feelings Too, Dr. Gary Oliver explains:
After the initial shock is over and the numbess begins to wear off, we are faced with a choice. We can either face our loss and grow through the crisis or pretend that everything is fine . . . In order to move through this acute grief phase you can’t repress or suppress your memories or emotions. You need to think about your loss, talk about your loss, and weep over your loss. That’s right, weep over your loss.
One of the most damaging messages to men has been “real men don’t cry.” However, God created us with the ability to cry. David wept, Peter wept, and Jesus wept. Max Lucado describes our tears as “miniature messengers,” and he describes the pain of some of those watching the crucifixion of Christ . . .
If you want the bottom-line, here it is. Tears aren’t the issue. It’s what our tears represent. Our tears represent the heart and soul of the person. To stuff, repress, suppress, or ignore your emotions is to deny your humanity. Lucado does not overstate the issue when he writes, ‘To put a lock and key on your emotions is to bury part of your Christlikeness!”
Lord, help me to release my emotions in acceptable ways, trusting Your grace to help me through times of frustration and anger.