Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you. Ephesians 4:32
When you are hurt, how do you defuse the emotional bomb of your anger? It may sound simplistic, but the power of Jesus Christ is the answer. He is the only One who can control your emotions and channel them in the proper directions.
It is also crucial to remember that your anger is NOT intrinsically wrong (Matthew 21:12-17). Anger in response to sin and its ill effects is a form of righteous anger, but when it crosses over the boundary into bitterness or a spirit of vengeance, it is not honoring to God. Much has been written on the subject of handling anger, and for good reason; it is a powerful motivator.
A key principle for keeping anger from turning into deep hurt is found in Ephesians 4:32 (NASB): “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” When you let go of your desire to get revenge, you are on the road to experiencing true freedom through forgiveness.
Your health and well-being are not the only reasons for quick resolution of an angry conflict; bitterness must be avoided at all costs. When a hurt is not addressed, it works its way down into the inmost parts of your heart. Bitterness is a lack of forgiveness multiplied many times over, and it will take root and spread into every segment of your life if you are not watchful.
Lord, I don’t want anger to control me. Help me to forgive as You forgave me.